Before Last Wish
The conversations worth having early

Advance Directives

Living wills, healthcare proxies and DNR orders.

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Advance Directives

The complete plan, on one page

Everything across this site reduces to a fairly short list. This is that list, in the order worth doing it.

Margaret Oyelaran··3 min read

Advance Directives

Living with a terminal diagnosis: the practical work

There is a period after a terminal diagnosis in which a great deal can be arranged, and using it well makes the following months substantially easier for everyone.

Margaret Oyelaran··4 min read

Advance Directives

Where do you want to be at the end

Most people express a preference to die at home. A substantial proportion die in hospital. The gap has identifiable causes and several of them are addressable.

Margaret Oyelaran··4 min read

Advance Directives

Resuscitation decisions, explained properly

Do-not-resuscitate decisions are widely misunderstood, by families and sometimes by staff, in ways that cause real harm in both directions.

Margaret Oyelaran··4 min read

Advance Directives

Planning ahead after a dementia diagnosis

A diagnosis creates a window in which decisions can still be made by the person themselves, and that window closes gradually and irreversibly.

Margaret Oyelaran··4 min read

Advance Directives

Mental capacity: what it means and how it is assessed

Capacity is decision-specific, time-specific and presumed to be present. Families frequently misunderstand all three, with consequences for the decisions that follow.

Daniel Krajewski··4 min read

Advance Directives

Power of attorney for finances: the document to do first

A power of attorney only works if it is made while the person still has capacity, which means the moment people realise they need one is frequently the moment it becomes impossible.

Daniel Krajewski··4 min read

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Organ and tissue donation: how the systems work

Donation systems differ substantially between countries, and in nearly all of them the family is asked regardless of what you registered. Which makes telling them the decisive step.

Margaret Oyelaran··4 min read

Advance Directives

Palliative and hospice care: what they are and when

Palliative care is widely misunderstood as care for the last few days. It is available far earlier, alongside treatment, and evidence suggests earlier referral produces better outcomes.

Margaret Oyelaran··4 min read

Advance Directives

Where to keep the documents so they are actually found

A well-drafted document that nobody can locate at the moment it is needed is the most common failure in end-of-life planning, and it is entirely preventable.

Margaret Oyelaran··4 min read

Advance Directives

Choosing a healthcare proxy, and what you are asking of them

The person who makes medical decisions for you if you cannot is doing one of the hardest jobs anyone can be asked to do. Choosing them on the basis of closeness is usually a mistake.

Margaret Oyelaran··4 min read

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Advance directives: what they cover and what they do not

Documents recording your wishes about future medical treatment go by different names in different places and carry different legal weight. Knowing which you have matters.

Margaret Oyelaran··4 min read